People Who Think That Everyone Else Is Always Responsible For Their Problems

“Someone else is always to blame for things that happen to me.” “My problems are always everyone else’s fault. None of them are because of me. ” Do these feelings sound familiar to you? Do you see yourself or someone you know in them?

There are many people who are not able to take responsibility for their actions. The thing is, when you fail to accept that you are actually the person who controls your life, who makes choices and acts, it will be difficult for you to take the initiative and take control of your life. In these scenarios, there is always someone to blame for things that happen. And of course, it’s not yourself.

It’s my boyfriend, my mother, the person I met… There’s a huge selection, as large as we want it to be. The greatest blindness is when we fail to accept the role we play, the role that is fortunately ours, and not someone else’s – or fate’s. It is absolute denial and stubborn conviction that says the person “who is to blame” for my problems is always someone else.

They project the responsibility onto everyone else so that they do not have to accept it

Some people are true artists to manipulate reality to justify what they tell themselves: that they are not responsible for what happened to them. They feel good about their self-deception, in part because they are so used to it that they become a little unconscious. But self-deception is still a major limitation that obscures our reality. It becomes more chaotic, more hostile.

We lose our North Star when we put our responsibility on the shoulders of everyone else. When we act impulsively. When we get frustrated because the other person does not respond the way we want. They can not or will not. But that’s not our battle. Everyone else can act as they please. We are the ones who must act accordingly.

These people waste a lot of time complaining. Nothing is ever enough. They can complain about even the most insignificant thing. And they are completely unable to channel their frustration. They become tyrants in their own little kingdom. The worst part of it all is that they end up hurting themselves and everyone around them.

Other people will not always be able to satisfy my needs

This has a lot to do with not knowing oneself, not reflecting. Knowing yourself and accepting who you are right now is the first step to changing yourself. If you do not know what your needs and impulses are, where your actions come from, it will be difficult for you to find a solution.

If someone does not notice us, we launch a tantrum in the same way as a child to get their attention. There is almost no method that is not allowed in this type of war. But when the other person does not give us what we need, we become furious. We curse them and blame them for our frustration. We make them responsible, so we do not disappoint ourselves.

If someone does not give us what we want and does everything to satisfy our needs, we become frustrated. On the other hand, it is sometimes as if people around us resolve everything so quickly that we do not even realize that we have asked for help and that they have given it to us.

But when we understand it, it is not uncommon for us to feel that we have nothing to be grateful for, since the other person was obliged to respond to our demands anyway.

Pick up the arrows you shoot and you will grow

We do not see the other person divorced from us. We see them as a slave who must satisfy our tyrannical needs. I command and you obey my orders. And if you do not obey them, I will make you feel that my misfortune is your responsibility and your fault. This is our unspoken way of thinking.

The moment we pick up all the arrows we shot out, we understand the situation and get our sight back. It was the center of all communication with the outside world, the center of our thought systems. While we are talking about a long-standing habit that is difficult to break, it is possible to change it if we seek help.